How many of us have people in our lives that we wish we had treated differently? I would venture to say it is all of us. An unspoken compliment, a spoken insult, a sugar-coated truth, giving advice when it wasn’t asked or not giving advice when it was needed, a heartfelt apology, maybe a humble request - these are but a few examples of life’s little regrets. When listening to others, a common trend you will notice is that we all have a desire to be better understood by those around us. Whether as a parent, child, sibling, friend, significant other, coworker, or even acquaintance - we want to be understood. The only way this can happen is if we are honest with ourselves and with others, even if the truth is uncomfortable at first. As my old football coach used to say, “Communication is the key to success!”
Perhaps I am in the minority on this but I would rather receive a painful truth than a deceitful lie. Along this line of thinking, I came up with a little experiment. I have selected a good number of individuals with whom I have a truth that I have not told them before. For some it may be a simple compliment, perhaps a hard truth, or even an expressed concern - but one feature common to all will be honesty. Life is too short to have secrets - granted, times exist when secrets are necessary but that is a topic for another day.
I would encourage all to not be afraid to talk more openly with others. However, the cost of this freedom is a willingness to have open ears and thicker skin to the truths others may share.
“No legacy is so rich as honesty” - William Shakespeare
May Your Fire Never Go Out,